i've been a push over too, and i hate it. sometimes i do things that i really don't want to do just to please that person. i just cry out of anger because i really don't want to do it but i can't stop. i can't stop because i fear of losing that person. i've been asking myself as to why i'm doing such things. i ask myself over and over, do i really have to do this for that person? is it even worth it? is it even fair? and lastly, can that person return the favor or this is just a one way thing? sometimes, i really want to crush myself and just die because of being such a push over. i know and i feel that something's or someone's being unfair to me, but i just can't quit it, i can't say no.
example:
"hey can you do this (proposal paper) for me?"
ME: hmm. i have a lot of things to do at home later, you know i do chores and my homework too.
"pls? :D"
ME: o..ok. yeah sure! :| :)
at home...
ME: what the.. what now? i have lots of things do! i don't have much time.. oh well, then i guess i won't sleep all night :(
at school..
"hey! are you done with my paper?"
ME: yeah. here. :)
"oh hey, you did this the wrong way. come on! i trusted you on this one. damn, what am i going to do now? i'll not be able to pass this. PLS don't talk to me for the meatime ok? "
me: sorry. maybe we can do some changes :(
"no you can't, i have to pass this now! goodbye"
later...
ME: WHAT THE FUCK! I DID EVERYTHING THAT I COULD AND THAT'S MY REWARD???!
that was just an example of many scenarios that i've been through. that's not even the worst favor i got from someone. being a push over is really not good especially when you're already old enough to think for yourself and to say no.
but eventually the fear will fade and you'll learn how to say no. just don't be afraid. never let anyone to be your master, never let anyone stomp on you and have a little pride for yourself. remember to always have something left for yourself. (this especially applies when it's about money, that's a serious matter)
good day everyone. :)
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